"When we have learned to stop fighting life and to trust its processes, we no longer need suffering." P218
First, I want to say this was probably my favorite chapter. I love this quote because I've been writing a movie for the past three years and this quote sums it up perfectly. It's about a group of people who go through their own struggles; for example, one is gay but doesn't come out to family because they'd be ashamed of him and another is a lesbian who is out with everyone except for her church. Her conflict comes from trying to be a "good Christian" and being a lesbian. Well the movie goes on with the several characters going through their struggles. Throughout the movie, closer to the end of course, each one just lets go and accepts their situation.
With this acceptance, things happen to become easier. Not because things change drastically but it's that thinking that maybe the best thing to do with LIFE sometimes isn't to fight it but to just accept it and work with it.
"Such a person cannot commit to a lover, because he does not know how to know if this is the right person for him." P216
I almost understood this section, "The Negative Sage". It talks about things not being good enough and feeling numb. I've felt both. I do at the present time with some things I'm going through. It seems as though no matter what I accomplish, it falls short to the feeling of "accomplishment" I think I should be feeling. I do understand being pessimistic because I don't know for sure if a relationship will work out or if my chapter is going to succeed so I just hope for the worst.
I do understand how others can feel superior to others because of their inability to understand. We (my fraternity) have run into some bad vibes from other fraternities because we're not like them. We're not overly macho or cocky. We actually dance in public and act like ourselves as goofy as that may be. I feel like this comes from them not understanding who we are and I think if we took the time to try to understand each other, there would be no need to feel superior to someone.
Friday, November 18, 2011
Thursday, November 10, 2011
The Ruler
"As the Warrior needs to learn to fight for what really matters (not just win) and the Caregiver to sacrifice only for what is essential (not just to win)...." P188
I found this to be very interesting because sometimes we forget to do things for the "right" reasons. This section talked about the Shadow Ruler. They do things for the sake of doing it and not for the "good". It's to win just because they can. To realize the Shadow Ruler exists, sometimes it takes hurting ourselves or someone else. It goes with a saying I live by; "Sometimes you have to go through hell to get to heaven". It's the existence of hell that makes heaven that much better.
"And the saddest resource to waste is a human life." P189
The Ruler can see the potential in all people. As President in my fraternity, I notice a lot of bRhothers being put down and their value questioned by other bRhothers. I do my best to see the good that those in question can contribute. I also do my best for those bRhothers to actually use their potential. Me bringing it out of them and doing it for them will be pointless. I believe all bRhothers have something to contribute. Some characteristics are easier to see or notice than others though.
I found this to be very interesting because sometimes we forget to do things for the "right" reasons. This section talked about the Shadow Ruler. They do things for the sake of doing it and not for the "good". It's to win just because they can. To realize the Shadow Ruler exists, sometimes it takes hurting ourselves or someone else. It goes with a saying I live by; "Sometimes you have to go through hell to get to heaven". It's the existence of hell that makes heaven that much better.
"And the saddest resource to waste is a human life." P189
The Ruler can see the potential in all people. As President in my fraternity, I notice a lot of bRhothers being put down and their value questioned by other bRhothers. I do my best to see the good that those in question can contribute. I also do my best for those bRhothers to actually use their potential. Me bringing it out of them and doing it for them will be pointless. I believe all bRhothers have something to contribute. Some characteristics are easier to see or notice than others though.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
The Vital Five
One of the five things that I find vital in my journey is my fear of failure. Usually this would stop people from doing many things. But for me, I've heard from others, it keeps me grounded. Not being cocky really goes a long away. I never take anything for granted and question my value of, in this case, myself as an actor. I think this keeps me on my toes and allows me to never be comfortable with my situation. My fear that I can fail at anytime is something I wouldn't give up though.
Another thing is my hesitancy to trust. I guess this can be lined up with my fear of failure. But my hesitancy to trust allows me to keep people at a distance. I've grown up being hurt by those close to me. Not just jumping into complete trust with someone gives me the chance of not being hurt or taken advantage of. I find this and my fear of failure to be necessary so I wouldn't give this up either.
The third thing I want to list is my girlfriend. She provides me with support and shows me reason to be optimistic. As much as she is able to build me up she still is there to keep me grounded and make sure I don't get cocky. I know that she'll stick it out with me through thick and thin, that's why I'm not going to get rid of her. The only thing that would stop us is if I had to move and she couldn't or wouldn't.
Another thing I have is my fraternity. These guys provide a family for me that differs from my blood family. They provide people I can count on anytime and also networking purposes. They know someone who knows someone who knows someone. Being in this fraternity has helped me grow as a person and also puts me in leadership positions that I never would've experienced had I not done it.
The fifth thing I have is my family. As much as I'm grateful for everything they've done for me and who they've shaped me into, I feel like lately they've held me back a lot. There's a lot I want to do with my life at the moment but I have to hold back because of my mom's financial situation or my younger brothers needing someone there or protecting my family from my dad. The thing I would want to give up is my family. It would kill me to do it but I feel like it'd be a burden that I can be rid of. I would come back to help my family once I accomplish my goals but at the moment, I would cut them off.
Another thing is my hesitancy to trust. I guess this can be lined up with my fear of failure. But my hesitancy to trust allows me to keep people at a distance. I've grown up being hurt by those close to me. Not just jumping into complete trust with someone gives me the chance of not being hurt or taken advantage of. I find this and my fear of failure to be necessary so I wouldn't give this up either.
The third thing I want to list is my girlfriend. She provides me with support and shows me reason to be optimistic. As much as she is able to build me up she still is there to keep me grounded and make sure I don't get cocky. I know that she'll stick it out with me through thick and thin, that's why I'm not going to get rid of her. The only thing that would stop us is if I had to move and she couldn't or wouldn't.
Another thing I have is my fraternity. These guys provide a family for me that differs from my blood family. They provide people I can count on anytime and also networking purposes. They know someone who knows someone who knows someone. Being in this fraternity has helped me grow as a person and also puts me in leadership positions that I never would've experienced had I not done it.
The fifth thing I have is my family. As much as I'm grateful for everything they've done for me and who they've shaped me into, I feel like lately they've held me back a lot. There's a lot I want to do with my life at the moment but I have to hold back because of my mom's financial situation or my younger brothers needing someone there or protecting my family from my dad. The thing I would want to give up is my family. It would kill me to do it but I feel like it'd be a burden that I can be rid of. I would come back to help my family once I accomplish my goals but at the moment, I would cut them off.
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